3,524 days

November 11, 2000 to July 6, 2010
9 years, 7 months, 25 days.
Kathy's (Mrs. Ray) divorce is declared by the court.

THE END

Update 4/14, 2013
A year or so ago, I did re-marry. We are very happy together.
-- Ray

What Universe am I in?

Mrs. Ray has a suggestion for me: Move to be near my son & daughter-in_law & granddaughter. My first wife (His Mom) is there. Mrs. Ray's reasoning? Well, maybe old sparks can re-kindle with Mrs Ray #1! I wanted to be polite and not tell her how idiotic that was.

Turning Point - Not!

The turning point issues are somewhat still going on. Her car is still in the shop, three weeks later.

For financial reasons, (I'm "between jobs" for one of the few times in my life) I live at home, with my soon to be ex-wife - separate bedrooms. I really refuse to move until I have a new job because It's not my idea to split up. If Mrs. Ray wants a divorce, she's got to be the one who leaves. Or at least until I find a new job, anywhere.

Anyway, it makes my personal feelings hellish, since Mrs Ray does not consider herself married any more, but we're sharing facilities. I do not want to speak up on any issues, because living like this would be even harder if she wanted to argue. I will be out of here like a bullet when I have a job. Readers, not to worry, I am filling out applications all over the state. I don't stay home watching Price Is Right during the day.

Though I'm talking about jobs right now, this blog is about my wilting marriage. But two major stressors are working together: Divorce and Unemployment (and money), to really push me into a pit of despair. I have given up on the former (though I still pray for God's hand to fix it!) and I'm close to giving up on the latter, which is something I have never experienced before.