Home Alone

So she’s gone. Moved out, to her new apartment. I moved most of the stuff myself. Took Friday evening (previous blog entry) and most of Saturday. Mrs. Ray has started on her independent life now, similar to the several years living alone before we were married.

I have spoken with two friends and told them how much I helped. They couldn’t believe it. Although every cell of my body does not want to participate in a divorce, I feel this was the best route with Mrs. Ray. If I did refuse to help, that would only build a barrier between us. Then communication would be sparse and strained. I have only six months to accomplish marriage repair, as Mrs. Ray is planning to move out of state in the spring.

Her desire is that we should remain “friends”. (My personal reply: “Uh huh. But what about the last six years?”) If I have any hope at all in rebuilding this marriage (and I have to do all the work right now) I must be on regular friendly contact with Mrs. Ray. No, not on a daily, or even a weekly basis, but I need to be welcomed whenever we do manage to contact each other.

Mrs. Ray was surprised at how much time and work I spent in moving her stuff. She was truly grateful. When she left “our” house for the last time tonight, she asked if I would give her a hug. (From her to me, that’s such a silly question!!) Nice hug. I appreciate all the Mrs.Ray-hugs I can get these days!

In prayer over the last few days, I have been focusing on our marriage as God’s second Gift to Man (after giving us life.) It is also a picture of the relationship of Jesus to His Church of believers. Marriage is a very sacred concept for me. I feel I stand on solid ground to ask God to aid me in getting Mrs. Ray by my side again. I am not of the “Husband is Head of Household – the Bible says women should be silent” school. My desire is to share the life and world God has given us for our enjoyment. I seek God’s guidance in getting what I feel could be a great marriage back together.

True Mrs. Ray and I do have issues, but I have called this pursuit of my marriage my life’s Great Work. A very direct piece of wisdom I believe God has laid on my heart is “Be Pure To Your Wife” The way I heard it in my heart makes this actually easy to follow. And it’s so short and direct it won’t be hard to forget. For me, no eye shall stray. No loneliness will find comfort in the arms of another. No thoughts of the companionship of others will be dwelt upon. No further corny stilted language, OK?

As I write this, my faith and hope are strong. This is amazing. I really do look forward to a good future. (Note from the Grain Of Salt dept.: The future hasn’t happened yet.)