Today I signed the "Non-Contested" papers. What else is there to say? I would like to continue to love Mrs. Ray, but at this time it looks like the end of that road.
That's 3,481 days. Mostly good days. No more.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Saturday, May 22, 2010
9mm or .38? What's Your Pleasure?
We are discussing our personal property - who gets what. I'm about as excited to do this as I would be discussing which pistol I can use to shoot myself. With Mrs. Ray I am not a good negotiator. She wants me to take care of things I believe should be "hers", but I have a hard time dealing with. Not the usual stuff: how about a prefab fireplace she wanted, we bought but never installed (still in the box). $900 that I have tried to sell, but we still have. If I'm supposed to move, what do I do with this?
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Who's Leaving?
Mrs. Ray has begun to insist that I leave town after the divorce is final. "This is a small town!"
Tell me something I don't know! And, when we are separate individuals again, I don't think I will need to even discuss my new address. From Day One, I have considered our divorce to be 100% Mrs. Ray's responsibility. Yes, I helped her move out, I helped her in may ways before, but then my overall goal was to keep on good terms, and keep honest communication open. (That part worked!)
I am really, deeply interested, even now, in maintaining and patching up our marriage, but I don't have that much energy left. I pray every day for God's intervention, but that's all I have left - prayer, hope and faith.
Tell me something I don't know! And, when we are separate individuals again, I don't think I will need to even discuss my new address. From Day One, I have considered our divorce to be 100% Mrs. Ray's responsibility. Yes, I helped her move out, I helped her in may ways before, but then my overall goal was to keep on good terms, and keep honest communication open. (That part worked!)
I am really, deeply interested, even now, in maintaining and patching up our marriage, but I don't have that much energy left. I pray every day for God's intervention, but that's all I have left - prayer, hope and faith.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Not Maybe, but Certainly
I was away for a weekend of training, came home this afternoon. Mrs. Ray asked me to sit down so We Could Talk. She said she would be seeking a divorce now. This time around, I have nothing I can say. No new developments in our relationship, but she's not happy with it.
I guess happiness for her is with her children & grandchildren. No, I don't guess. For years, reading her Facebook pages and other things, even working with the Retrouvaille program, I still felt No. 2.
The there is no "fight" for this in me any more. I do wish she wouldn't follow this path, but I have no way, and won't stop her this time. As a record, I may add entries, but just as a chronicle as my marriage finally dissolves.
I guess happiness for her is with her children & grandchildren. No, I don't guess. For years, reading her Facebook pages and other things, even working with the Retrouvaille program, I still felt No. 2.
The there is no "fight" for this in me any more. I do wish she wouldn't follow this path, but I have no way, and won't stop her this time. As a record, I may add entries, but just as a chronicle as my marriage finally dissolves.
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