Divorce Arises

(Caution, this blog series will contain Christianity.)
Introduction
Since about June, Mrs. Ray has been very upset about how I behave. It seems to her that I am "rude, callous, pushy and controlling". Problem is, I have found no other person who feels this way about me.
We are both very strong Christians. The pastor and his wife at our church are close friends of both of us. Years before our marriage, Mrs. Ray had been married to a man who had been a staff minister also, but "lost" his calling and left her.
The beginning of the end?
By November 18, Mrs. Ray and I have been married for exactly 6 years and one week. She had taken a long planned trip to the coast to see her daughter. I figured she would be talking about her marriage. But with a young woman who had just walked away from her husband of about six years. Same issues. (a pattern?)
Anyway, Saturday night at 9:30, Mrs. Ray called me to say she wanted a divorce. Well, a phone call is better than a text message, dontcha think?
Her plans were to stay with a friend for a few days then find her own apartment.