Coasting

Mrs. Ray and I spent Sunday at the local Kennel club dog show, though I'd much rather spend Palm Sunday at church. (See "Strategy" below.) In the last two weeks, Mrs. Ray and I have been on an even keel. I suppose part of it may be we're set to see a (new) counselor Tuesday, and we're just waiting. The Tuesday counseling session is one hour, and it's the introductory one. I'm sure something will come out of it, though. We continue the dialogs daily (OK, Thursday and Friday we were just too tired, but we did spend a few minutes in affirming conversation. Try that some time, marriage problems or not!) No big ups and downs.

My strategy for now is to try not to make any decisions, even if Mrs. Ray says something like "You choose the restaurant this time." I have found that If I make a suggestion when we're working together on something, she gets rather sharp talking back to me. I feel it's just the sensitivity of a sore - you find out just how much you use your third (ring) finger when you get a paper cut there!

I am still amazed at the Retrouvaille presenters. They feel so strongly about what they're doing, they will stop their presentation, look at the group, and say "If you have any question or problem, call us! Do not hesitate! We are serious about this!" Some of the couples have traveled three hours (through Los Angeles) to come give a talk. My hat is off to them!

I think I'll write a letter to Phil Keoghan of CBS's Amazing Race. We have not missed watching a single episode together. Even in the most "separate" of Sundays, we manage to get together on a couch to watch the show. I can't say it's really true, but it's close, that "Amazing Race saved our marriage!"