Some Reflection.

Dear Mrs. Ray,

After lots of reflection, maybe I was too overbearing in many ways. Not in a directly controlling way, but in making sure things got done in a certain way, for example, and in covering you with too much love and care. This is hard to explain, but something I was doing smothered you until you felt trapped in this marriage. Not ever did I want to treat you this way, but it was a reaction between our personalities that resulted in these feelings. I know you had spent years living independently. I know you have no problem stepping out again, alone, this way.

What can I, and we, do to fix this? I think the main thing is to identify the problem. For months I have been tearing myself apart trying to find the fault in me. Today maybe I came to a conclusion that heads us in the right direction.

Love,

Your Husband, Ray